When K and I got married, we wrote our own vows.
As we wrote them, we were conscious of the fact that some of our wedding guests would watch us take our vows all the while cognizant that they themselves were legally barred from making the same commitment to their own partners.
Some of our friends do not posses the basic right to marry who they love.
Knowing this made K and I both uncomfortable and indignant.
We wrote a prayer into our ceremony asking for the dawning of the day when all couples could enjoy the legal right to wed.
The other night, K came home and wanted to talk about donating money.
"I heard a story on NPR," he said. "The recent California Supreme Court ruling that legalized same-sex marriage is being threatened by a referendum to amend the state constitution. The
referendum would overturn the ruling and would define marriage as a union between a man and a woman."
[I took a deep, frustrated breath...]
"Money is going to pour into California from conservative sources all over the country. I want to contribute funds to the other side of the fight," he said.
We wrote to a good friend in California who is celebrating his sixth anniversary with his partner to ask where he thought our donation should go in order to achieve the greatest impact.
He recommended Human Rights Campaign.
[HRC also has a petition you can sign.]
K and I are on it.
True love is hard enough to find in this world. I don't understand why we have to make it harder on folks.
When they locked up the social democrats,
When they came for the trade unionists,
When they came for the Jews,
When they came for me, there was no one left to speak out.
Martin Niemöller (1892–1984)