Thursday, April 10, 2008

Mother Groove

It’s spring break at daycare, so I’ve been home with the short and loud people this week.

[Hence The Incredible Lightness of Posting.]

As a working mom, I never had the opportunity to learn the stay-at-home-mom Zen that so many of my peers seem to have.

If I am honest, I have to admit that spring break used to scare me.

How on Earth would I pass the hours? How would I keep my sanity?


Don’t leave me alone with them!!!!!!!!!!

NOOOOOOOOO!!!!

[Roll horror music - ree! ree! ree!]

I don’t know if I finally found my mothering groove or if my kids are just easier now.

Maybe it’s both.

Regardless, I’m grateful that I’ve spent most of this week pushing swings, brushing sand off little fingers and riding the mini-train at the zoo.

It’s a privilege and a gift to have this time with them.

Today I think we'll take a walk around the block. Who knows what we'll discover...


41 comments:

Ivy Brown said...

Good to see you and yours yesterday. It had been too long. We'll be hanging close to home today if you're up for a walk around the corner together.

Here's to the groove...

Jenifer said...

That sounds like a lovely week...maybe it just does get a bit easier everyday.

Annie said...

I need to get me some of that zen!

Circus Kelli said...

That's wonderful! I'm glad you're all enjoying your time together. That all sounds similar to the day I had with my kiddo last Saturday. I'm working on finding a kind of 'groovy zen' when I'm with my kids, too.

Corgimom said...

A good time with the short people is priceless. Maybe we moms also get "easier" as time goes by.

jakelliesmom said...

It's nice sometimes (especially when they are cooperative) to slow to exactly where they want to be, to work off of agenda. Hope it lasts until daycare opens again.

Ella said...

I have been reading your blog for a while, but a first comment.

I have to admit that I am astounded by how you mothers do it. The whole idea of being responsible full time scares me.

It is wonderful to see that there is a zen to it and it is possible to be learnt.

mamatulip said...

Enjoy your walk. :)

Gretchen said...

Zen? Bwahahaha.

My sister told me the same thing, and I replied I was just tuning them out.

Glad to see you're enjoying your week!

Cyndi said...

It sounds like a nice week. Enjoy the rest of it!

Pgoodness said...

sounds lovely. i've been doing a lot of the swing pushing and sand wiping too. it's kind of nice, isn't it?

Kyla said...

Glad you're having a good spring break!

Mimi said...

Have fun! (I'm scared of those weeks too, but they always seem to go faster and bettr than I imagine they will)

Amy said...

Sweet! As a working mom I also love these times. It makes me reconsider the whole working thing. For like a day or two anyway.

we_be_toys said...

The bigger they get, the easier it is to actually have fun with them. Toddlers are cute, but they don't reason well, do they?!
I'm so glad you had a great week with the kids - sometimes they just like to mess with our heads and be good for a change!

flutter said...

I so wish I could hang and go for a walk with you and Ivy!

Above Average Joe said...

You are right. With everything going on, the one thing it has taught me is it is absolutely a privilege and a gift to have my time with them.

The Laundress~JJ! said...

Isn't it great to FINALLY find that groove???

Yay you.

apathy lounge said...

Staying home with kids is definitely another world entirely. I've done it without working and I've done it while working. It's tough no matter how you do it. The Zoo is always a good time, too.

Chilihead said...

What is this Zen you speak of with the children at home. I think you must be confusing it with the look of having given up. ;) KIDDING! I kid.

I'm actually looking forward to having my kids home for the summer. It will be an adjustment, but it's always a good one.

Lori said...

I've stayed and home and worked and never had the zen. But, as the kids have gotten older school breaks don't scare me as much.

Worker Mommy said...

Yes, absolutely. Believe it or not I use my vacation time just to take days off during the week to enjoy with the kiddos and do all that stuff that I'm missing out on while I'm here at work.

Law Student Hot Mama said...

I thought I'd go crazy when I had my son and would be home with him during the day (and attend law school at night). It wasn't the days that were killing me . . . it was the SCHOOL AT NIGHT part. I had a lot more fun with my kiddo than I ever thought possible . . . and a lot less fun at school than I would have thought possible. *sigh*

3carnations said...

We have one week per year that daycare is closed around Christmas, and I savor that time. It's always hard to go back. I would love to be a stay at home mom...but it didn't work out that way for us. So, we make the most of the time we have. :)

Not Hannah said...

Wait. Somebody is handing out SAHM zen? Hook me UP.

Wendy said...

Maybe a new pony? :D

Wabi said...

Ah, hope for the future! Right now I'm definitely in the they-work-me-down-to-a-frayed-half-nerve stage of existence ...

QT said...

That sounds good - and from what I've heard, yes, I think the ages improve things.

Lisa said...

Glad to hear the week is going wonderfully for you.

My secret to the SAHM zen (years ago) was that we were never home -- well, unless the boy needed a nap. Lots of stuff to do between various parks, museums, playdates and whatnot.)

Kudos to you -- sounds like a fun week for you AND the kids!

Day Dreamer said...

It's nice just having them to yourself sometimes.

I'm a working mom, too. It's hard to get into that grove when you're not used to doing it anymore. But it's well worth the effort!

MamaGeek said...

This sounds like a perfect week.

I'm playing single mom this week so I'm fresh out of ideas for activities. Is a 4 hour bath SO WRONG? :)

Queen Karana said...

Talk about joys! I can read your blog again... I don't know what the heck problem my browser was having, but every time it tried to load the "stella" post it would completely crash my browser! AGH!

So I'm back. YAY! And I hope you have a wonderful spring break. As other people have said, our time with our children is so short and fleeting! Enjoy it!

Kelly said...

As a SAHM I have to ask...who are these Zen mothers of which you speak? I've seen some medicated one's, and some liquored up one's, but Zen...hmmmmm

Shannon said...

I'm a stay-at-home mom and I nothing of this Zen you speak of.

It must be an urban legend.

Either that or they self medicate.

Shannon said...

I meant to write "I KNOW nothing of this zen...."

carrie said...

Please pass the zen.

Thanks for the reminder Jess, of those things that really matter. It is so easy to get caught up in the sheer WORK of mothering - sometimes a little perspective goes a looooong way!

Janet said...

After 7 years at home, the SAHM zen still comes and goes for me. It's evanes-zen-t. (ba dum bum)

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Laura said...

Sounds like a great week...cherish the fun times!

Maggie said...

I don't know about these other mothers you speak of, but I am anything but zen. Some days I find myself praying for school - 2 1/2 year, 2 1/2 years.

But the walks and the little art projects that come between the insantiy make it all worthwhile!

Damselfly said...

Oh, hon, every day I wonder how on Earth I am going to pass the hours!