Thursday, April 05, 2007

Legacy


I was supposed to spend this week with The Mayor and Rooster Girl because their daycare program is closed for Spring Break.

[...and there was no way I was loaning them the car and letting them go to Daytona – not with all the recent “I want cock” talk. No way.]

Unfortunately, because The House of Joy turned into The House of Sick last week and because I am self-employed, if I didn’t work I would have had to fire myself for underperformance.

I somehow convinced The Mayor's daycare teacher to spend her vacation at our house in order to sequester myself in my office and catch up on my blog reading important work projects.

I was disappointed to change my plans.

I had been looking forward to spending the week with them, which truth be told, is a shift for me.

Until recently, caring for both of them full-time routinely wore me down to a nubbin.

Oh, I love them (with all my heart and daisies shooting out of my butt and blah, blah, blah), but two babies only fifteen months apart has been hard. In all honesty, much of it has been tedious, at times mind-numbingly dull work.

Things have (finally) taken a turn for the better at The House of Joy.

The Mayor and Rooster play together a bit reducing the need for constant parental policing.

It is genuinely nice to spend time with them now.

Yesterday, our daycare provider had to leave early so I spent a few hours aimlessly drifting along with them.

The three of us walked through the streets of our neighborhood underneath the blossoming tree limbs showering us with petal storms.

Time stretched out before us, unhurried.

We stopped to watch a flatbed truck load a dumpster on its back.

We watched a squirrel tight rope walk on a telephone wire.

We met a dog who couldn't use his hind legs but had his own rear wheels instead.

We watched a man cut kudzu vines off of a tree trunk.

We threw pebbles in a stream.

We had an entirely unplanned adventure in a simple walk around the block.

I was reminded of my Grandfather, my Ady.

When I was as little as The Rooster he would take me for walks around the block.

Though I was quite small I remember those walks well.

I was so small and everything was new.

Every insect and flower was an adventure. I was filled with a sense of discovery.

I had his attention all to myself! The bliss, the honor!

Roaming my neighborhood holding the tiny hands of my children, I thought of my Ady.

Perhaps his walks are the legacy he left for me... a lesson in love and the simplest celebration.

From now on The Mayor, Rooster and I will take more walks around the block.

I know my Ady will walk beside us.


Walking Around The Block
Ady & Me



89 comments:

Sayre said...

I'm glad my makeup isn't on yet. Your Ady is definitely there with you because he likes looking through their eyes too.

moodswingingmommy said...

What a beautiful post! We get so wrapped up in the day to day that we sometimes miss those simple moments of joy with our children. SO nice that you remember having them with your grandfather.

It hurts to admit, but I sometimes look forward to the days Dear Son is in preschool with what could be described as unbridled glee.

I'm totally jealous of the blossoms raining down on you, btw. Cold and rainy here and nary a blossom in sight!

Kim said...

thanks a lot for making me tear up so early in the morning...a beautiful post, indeed.

Patience said...

Those little moments! Oh, how important they are!!

QT said...

I loved this post and your remembrance - and I could swear that is the Rooster in that picture!

My grandpa took me for walks too - they are my faint, earliest memories. We always walked to his barbershop and he would "show me off" to all the other old men. Isn't it wonderful to know you were loved so dearly?

Pgoodness said...

I think you're right - that is the legacy your Ady left you. :-)
It's tough to be home with the kid all day. Some days I'm barely hanging on when their beloved Daddy walks through the door. Much more rare are those days when I skip the laundry and dishes and just let myself BE with them. I'm learning, but it sure is a slow process. Nice to know I'm not alone out here.

mamatulip said...

After the couple of hideous days I've had with my kids, I needed to read this post this morning.

Thank you for sharing these snippets from your life.

Kelly said...

I was just whining to my husband about how he gets to go to work today, and I'm stuck at home with a sick child, again. I feel better now.

Nice post.

DraMa said...

Your post really got me thinking... it brought a new perspective on time I spend with my kids. Thank you:)

Now I hope to think about what this time will mean to them, in the future, instead of just trying to entertain them.

SciFi Dad said...

Funny... I wrote a similar themed post today. It's amazing how simple things can be made so much more than they are when you experience them with your child(ren).

Great post, Joys.

Mimi said...

really nice post!

So nice to take a "time out" with our kids.

Thank you for posting this. Very nice!

Tabba said...

I think many of us were touched by wonderful men, who left simple and meaningful legacies to pass on.

And isn't it wonderful that all of these simple, everyday things are made new by our kids again?

God bless you & your little ones. God bless your Ady.

Sarah said...

I love taking days to just be aimless with the kids, not in a hurry, or rushed, or impatient. Somedays that goes really well.

Jennifer said...

That's a great post! What a memory to have and be able to pass on.

slouching mom said...

So sweet, that photo.

I was just thinking last night that we need to start getting out for walks. And then it snowed.

This was moving, OTJ.

Rachel said...

Beautiful writing. I like the images from your walk. We take those walks around the neighborhood too. It's fun to see everything through your child's eyes.

Lawyer Mama said...

This is such a sweet post.

My kids are 15 months apart too, so I know what you mean. I'm starting to see a light at the end of the tunnel and enjoy my kids more.

Catizhere said...

Sweet post!
I too, get overwhelmed taking care of 2 kids. The weekends are especially tough since Joe works weekends. By Sunday evening I am sooooo glad that the next morning, I can drop them at daycare & go to WORK!!! Where there all ADULTS to talk to.
Sometimes it is good to slow down see the world through kids eyes in all of it's magical glory.

Pendullum said...

Sometimes just a breeze can bring them back...
Glad the walk brought him back...

thordora said...

you should totally enter that in my contest.

and I'm also jealous of warmth right now. Bastards...

Lisa Milton said...

Bless you my child - fifteen months apart. Holy smokes. I think I would have gone crazy, a little.

I love the picture. Very sweet.

Attila The Mom said...

Glad to hear you're feeling better. What precious moments with your kids! Thanks for posting it...I've got a huge smile on my face. :-)

Augs Casa said...

Finally someone who can relate. Although DraMa spends the days with our boys, 16 months apart is so much work. I wanted off this ride several time, but the good is much better than the bad.

Mrs. Chicken said...

This is so sweet and heartfelt. A lovely post, J.

Also, self-employed? What do you do?

Megan said...

Lovely post!
And I'm glad to hear that it gets better, eventually.

Mrs. M said...

i have memories like that of my pappy taking me to the zoo when we'd visit Florida. We'd always stop by the monkeys for the longest time and everytime I see them at the zoo, I remember that.

Mamma said...

What a wonderful legacy indeed.

The Sour Kraut said...

This brought tears to my eyes.

I have really special memories of my dad (who is still with us) walking me around our yard and checking out the garden each evening when he returned home from work.

Raising kids gets easier the older they get. I too work at home and I always seem distracted with my work. I get snippy and short with them for interrupting me. I love those times when all else is pushed aside. It doesn't matter what we do, it's the fact that we are all focused on being together with no interruptions or distractions..

Nikki said...

I love exploring with my short people.

They bring new light to old sights.

g-man said...

Very nice post. It is really fun to have that kind of time with your kids. Enjoy it, it doesn't last forever.

Tessa said...

Joy... Teriffic post. Those are the kind of memories I hope my son has with my parents and with us as he grows. Thanks for reminding me. :)

Waya said...

Ahh, so nice! Those are the precious memories that we hold on to forever! And I bet your children too, as evidenced by your memories of your Ady.

We're looking forward to our walks around the blocks too when this snow ends, I know...it's April and it snowed yesterday!! Crazy!

Above Average Joe said...

Isn't that the best feeling in the entire world when you slow down and realize, "Hey, these little pains-in-the-asses can be fun at times"?

Super B's Mom said...

Nothing like seeing the world through Barbie or Ninja Turtle glasses.....

Great post.

Mad Hatter said...

I love my walks with Miss M. Wouldn't trade them for a day at the spa--even when they end in misery of certain bald dollies. What a lovely tribute to your grandpa.

Mimi said...

Omigod, COULD you be any cuter? Don't think so.

Ah, the shift. I know it well. How brave of you to admit that maybe child care ain't always so fulfilling. That you had to learn how to enjoy spending time with your children, as they learn how to be little people who are interesting, instead of lumps of annoying (if lovable yada yada yada) need.

I hear you. I'm constantly surprised at how much fun Miss Baby is becoming. Huh.

BOSSY said...

When your legs are that little, a walk around the block is a journey to the moon.

Chrissy said...

Thank you. You have reminded me of my walks with my Grandma and what a treasure they were. I am promptly signing off and sending her an email (that's rights - she's a very hip and now 82 year old with email capabilities)!

crazymumma said...

I am sure he enjoyed those walks as much as you enjoy remembering them.

That was lovely. I like sentiment.

Kyla said...

So very sweet. :)

Jackie said...

Dammit, J, you made me cry! Beautiful.

Abbynormal said...

That was more than absolutely wonderful of a post.

Mel said...

Two things:
1) You didn't absolutely have to make me all teary-eyed at work, now did you?
2) Everything about this writing screams "This woman needs to make this post into a book." In this format, with the simple, beautiful sentences, it would be a great tale for the K-3 crowd. Or, with a little more meat on it, it would make a good grownups book, too.
Did you know I was going to start stumping for you to write a book today? No, me either. But I am! And you should!
:)

tulipmom said...

Beautiful post, really beautiful. Mel is right ... this would make a great book.

NotSoSage said...

How is it that you have me laughing one minute and then tearing up the next? You have a gift, woman. You really do.

I love walking...out there...it's where I find peace.

Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

Too sweet.
I love that post.

It's amazing how you have those moments and sometimes take them for granted...I'm glad you didn't.

Ortizzle said...

Lovely post. Walks are good. Walks are therapeutic. Especially when you're a kid and everything is new and different and full of wonder.

Mrs. Chicky said...

So lovely.

I do enjoy the little things. They are so much more pleasant than daisies shooting out of one's butt.

DysdHousewife said...

It is so easy to forget to take a breather and just spend fun relax time with our kids. SO glad you reminded me to do this! You Rock~ Rooster Momma.

Life As I Know It said...

Isn't it great when life with kids becomes a little bit easier? The day my kids started playing together was a day of celebration here.
We often take walks around the block too, stopping to look at every bug, dog, bird and any other interesting thing along the way.
Enjoy every minute!

Momish said...

Long walks are like chicken soup for the soul! They somehow take the pressure off to be doing something and allow for other things (like conversation and observation) to sneak in.

Lisa Fine Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

those walks with little kids are the best aren't they? All the things we never notice are shown to us in vivid color..

Lisa

Jennifer said...

Oh, this is sweet. Achingly sweet.

(And I wish I could say more, but as a new reader to Oh, The Joys, I hadn't previously known about the two kids 15 months apart thing, and I'm stuck with "15 months apart! 15 months apart!" in my head right now. *I bow to you*.)

JudesMommy said...

Ohhhh, I LOVED this! Absolutely beautiful and absolutely apropos.

BlondeMom said...

STOP MAKING ME CRY.

Love this post. Just lovely. And the photo is the icing on the cake.

I don't really "know" you but I feel like I know you when I read these little snapshots of your life. It's so tough to just sit back and let life happen when you have small children (15 months apart...oh my!) Thanks for the reminder that everything is new to them.

Fairly Odd Mother said...

Sniffle, sniffle. Thank you for a beautiful post and that photo! Too cute.

angel said...

This has inspired me to grab Damien as soon as he wakes from the nap of all naps (2.5 hours and counting...I don't know if I should wake him or just leave him ...) and go for our own (chilly) walk around our neighbourhood. We won't have a stream to throw rocks into, but we'll have puddles to jump in, and kitties and puppies to point out and make noises at. Thank you!

(and I totally totally teared up!)

Kristi said...

I'm with you sistah. Staying home with kids is hard work. I avoided it for years. And even now I have my moments when I'm about to go postal. This post reminds me that it won't always be this way...and I need to enjoy it while I can.

Thanks :)

Cece said...

What a lovely story. Thanks for sharing.

jen said...

ah, yes. love.

yes, friend. i know the path. i know what it took to get to here.

Cat, Galloping said...

your kids will hold your hands?!

Aliki2006 said...

Oh, lovely post--so perfect.

I love walks with my kids, too--they are sometimes the best moments.

karrie said...

Such a beautiful sentiment and cute little OTJ picture! :)

Somehow though I read it first as a squirrel who had to use wheels instead of hind legs and that made me a little dizzy.

MamaLee said...

Beautiful.

And I understand how it can get with 2 kids 15 months apart. And then I had Sweetpea 19 months after that.

Great, but it requires lots of caffeine.

Jenifer said...

Wah. That was so nice and the picture, sweetness.

I am just beginning to really enjoy the company of my girls. To spend time together instead of spending time taking care of them is definitely worth the wait.

Walks are the best. When a day has gone off the rails a walk around the neighbourhood always brightens things up.

FishyGirl said...

This was beautiful. I'm so glad you had the time to spend with them, and those wonderful memories of your grandfather.

urban-urchin said...

J that's beautiful. What a wonderful man your Ady was, he obviously loved you very much.

Flawed & Disorderly said...

How cuuute!

I'm sorry I haven't been posting comments. I've been enjoying your blogging via cell phone, and I don't even begin to know how to leave a comment from there. It's still rigged from when it was Ironman's phone, and he had you saved under favorites. :D

Anyway, I looooooooooooooved the prom pics! Hilarious!

flutter said...

This is just divine.

Slackermommy said...

Awww, excellent post!

metalia said...

Just beautiful. And yes, I'm tearing up a bit.

Liam's Mom - Gina said...

Great post! What great memories you are making and remembering. Kids ARE hard, but they certainly have wonderful little door prizes along the way.

Lisa said...

That is so sweet. That photo of you and your Ady is so precious!

creative-type dad said...

I started taking my daughter for walks around the block a few weeks ago because the wife was either cooking or studying- it's been very fun.

Although, so far no flatbed trucks or dumpsters

scribbit said...

Love that picture, what a sweet memory and beautiful post to match.

sweatpantsmom said...

I love this post. I feel like I just took that walk with you.

Amber said...

What wonderful memories!! I hope my daughter, too will speak of our daily walks in the same manner. We're blessed to live above a huge outdoor complex with a river, soccer and baseball fields, playground, ponds and more open space than any kid could ever need!

canape said...

Perfect.

Denguy said...

What a great moment frozen in time, such an excellent photo.

Lotta said...

Stop making me cry!

Two Shews said...

Mine are twenty months apart, and I am only just beginning to remember the journey, instead of focusing solely on the destination. Thanks for the reminder.

Gingers Mom said...

I think we as moms need to take more time to slow down with our kids. I am always rushing them, getting where we need to go. I should go take a leisurely walk with mine. Maybe I'll do that today.
It is hard to be content at home with little ones sometimes. I ignore mine too much because I get bored. Isn't that awful?? But it is normal. My 2 youngest are 18 months apart and it IS hard.

Stepping Over the Junk said...

Even though I moved to a different coast, so much reminds me of my grandfather, in my being with my kids. Like rolling those rolly polly bugs down the driveway...(I forget what they are called) and smooshing ants on the sidewalk with my finger (which my kids do)

Chaos Control said...

Wow. Utterly beautiful. Those are the only words I can find at the moment ... wow.

Kevin Charnas said...

Awesome...just, awesome.

mothergoosemouse said...

My K is more fun than I am too. But thanks for the reminder to try to look at the world through new eyes (and to help make that world a little easier to take).

Damselfly said...

Oh! I love that picture, the house, his clothes, your dress! You're lucky ... I never knew my grandfathers.

Nancy said...

What a wonderful post and great picture of you and your Ady. I took my kids for walks almost daily when they were young. I loved it. So glad to hear that you are taking the time to go for walks with them now, they will be to busy when they get older, or if they do go for walks it just isn't the same... my kids want to run ahead or take their scooters and go way ahead of me now.

mcewen said...

Lovely - thank you.