Sunday, February 04, 2007

To Light You On Your Way

My Ady & Granny

Ady is my Grandfather.

He is in the hospital.

My mom and her sister are there with my Granny at Ady's side.

He is sedated, comfortable they tell me.

He is waiting, they are waiting, everyone is waiting for nature to take its course.


I wish I was there.

Stand still, O Beautiful End, for a moment,
and say your last words in silence.
I bow to you and hold up my lamp
to light you on your way.

~Rabindranath Tagore


Updated:

Monday morning.

My Ady passed away last night.

I will be away for awhile saying goodbye.



123 comments:

gingajoy said...

my thoughts are with you and your family...

Tabba said...

Jess - My thoughts are with you all. I wish you all great comfort right now.

Heather said...

Mr. Pants and I are thinking of you and yours. This is never an easy time, but we are passing along good thoughts and e-hugs.

cmhl said...

oh, I'm so sorry. thinking of you & your family...

PunditMom said...

I am so sorry. My maternal grandfather swas VERY special to me, and as he was near the end, I made sure I drove the three hours each way to be with him, even if just for a few hours.

My thoughts are with you and your family. It's a lovely photo.

Long Island Dad said...

Jess,
Our thoughts and prayers our with you and your family. May peace find it's way to you and your's.
-Chris

Pgoodness said...

Waiting is often the hardest part. Keeping you and yours in my thoughts. h

mimikatemom said...

Beautiful post. thanks for sharing. Sending strength to you and peace to your grandfather.

Julia said...

I'm so sorry. I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

Rachel said...

I'm thinking of you and your family, and sending good thoughts/ prayers your way.

Tim said...

they are such a good looking couple. i hope he is not too uncomfortable. i hope he is ready. i hope he knows how much you love him.
i hope you are okay.

i know i don't "know" you, but i'll be thinking about you and your family.

hugs.

angela said...

uh, that last comment was me...not tim. i don't know how i logged on as my husband.

Nicole said...

It is hard to be away from loved ones when we want to be there to comfort them. My thoughts are with you and yours!

Gingers Mom said...

I am so sorry for you. Sending hugs and prayers your way.

Mamma said...

Jessica,

My thoughts are with you and your family. I hope that grandfather finds peace.

Amie

liv said...

Jess, My own PaPa found rest last week. It's been a tough time, and there never seems to be a really right thing to say, but I'm sending thoughts of love and light your way.

Nat said...

He looks like a proper gentleman. My heart breaks up thinking about him leaving you. Grandads are the loveliest family members, I think.

BethGo said...

Thinking of you.

jen said...

oh, sweet jess. i am sorry to hear this.

but it sounds as if you are there, right there, with your giant heart and loving soul.

peace to your grandfather, and you all.

Izzy said...

I'm so sorry. I know this must be so hard for you & your family {{hugs}}

lildb said...

Oh, Jessica.

My heart is heavy for you and your loved ones tonight.

Katrina said...

I am so sorry...sending thoughts and prayers your way.

Shannon said...

My thoughts are with you and your family.

Domestic Slackstress said...

Sending you support ... Wishing you comfort ... What a wonderful photo.

Karana said...

Warm thoughts are headed your way.

Sayre said...

Oh... so sorry to hear about your grandpa. May he find peace in his release as he begins his next adventure.

Jeff said...

My thoughts are with you during this difficult time. Hopefully he will remain comfortable and the wait will not be difficult.

Aliki2006 said...

This really hit a chord with me. My thoughts are with you. My grandmother is dying of a brain tumor across the Atlantic--it's so hard not to be there.

carmachu said...

THoughts and prayers are with you kiddo...

Janet a.k.a. "Wonder Mom" said...

I'm so sorry.

I send my hugs to you and your family.

*tight squeeze*

mamatulip said...

My thoughts are with you, and with your family.

QueenieBadd said...

I'm so sorry. I'm thinking of you and your family, sending you all vibes of peace and comfort at this time.

Little Monkies said...

Beautiful note, my friend. It is a time of passing and having your loved ones there to embrace you in the journey is the epitome of a life well lived. You are there with him, even if it's not physically..and his spirit will pass through you and continue to live in the special part of your heart. A wonderful legacy your family has. Love you. Fran.

Patience said...

May the beautiful memories soften the sadness you feel. Peace.

The Sour Kraut said...

I hope you find comfort in the memories.

We're thinking of you.

Bob said...

oh - my heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry. Sounds as if he is much loved, I'm sure that helps him now.

MamaLee said...

My prayers are with you and your family...

May you all find some peace.

xoxo

Becky said...

My thoughts are with you and your family. May your Ady's path be lit with all the love and strength of his family, both past and present.

Dawn said...

Oh I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you and your family peace,
D

Cat, Galloping said...

i am sorry for your loss.

Slackermommy said...

So sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Iris said...

I am so sorry to hear this. I am truly praying for your family to be able to find some peace during such a sad time.

Diana said...

My condolences, my dear.
Sending love your way.

canape said...

Many many hugs coming your way. I am so very sorry for your loss.

Dysfunctional Housewife said...

So sorry to hear of your sad time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. ::hug::

Shelli said...

I am so sorry for your loss.

carrie said...

I am so sorry, truly. Take as much time as you need.

Carrie

Missy said...

Deepest sympathy.

Megan said...

Lots of love and prayers your way. Things like this make my worries seem trivial and petty.

That's a beautiful poem, by the way.

Jenny Ryan said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Cece said...

I'm so sorry. {{hugs}}

Two Faces said...

So sorry to hear this. My prayers are with your family.

Beautiful poem.

Mrs. Chicky said...

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you and your family.

Terri said...

Ohhhh... :-(
I'm so sorry ....
((((heart hugs)))

Grim Reality Girl said...

So sorry for your loss. Prayers are going up for you and your family.

christel said...

We just lost a grandparent, too... it's so hard to say goodbye. You said it beautifully. My deepest sympathy.

Marcie said...

Sorry for your loss. Your Grandpa looked like a sweet Man.
I was very close to all of my Grandparents and I miss them all terribly.

Christina_the_wench said...

You and the family are in my prayers today.

*big hug*

Lisa Fine Goldstein/Kelly Kelly said...

Dear Jess, I am so sorry for your loss. Your thoughts that you posted were just beautiful. I wish you comfort in the memories you have.

Lisa

FishyGirl said...

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Sarah said...

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

BlondeMom said...

I'm so sorry to hear that. Thinking of you and your family during this time.

tessa said...

You and yours are in my prayers hon. We lost my grandfather 4 days before Christmas. Don't be afraid to feel it... don't push it away. It just makes it harder later on.

Momish said...

So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. Take care.

Lisa said...

I am so sorry. I love the picture.

Natalie said...

I'm sorry to hear this. All my best to you and yours.

Shannihilation said...

Jessica - It's your cousin, Shannon.

I miss him too. I'm sorry I won't be able to be at the funeral. My doctors tell me not to travel that far so close to my due date. But know that I am thinking of everyone and that I love you all.

Flawed & Disorderly said...

Oh! My heart hurts for you. As you know I just went through the same thing with my grandmother. Call or write if you ever want to talk. It's been harder than I expected. Even though I know it's what she wanted and it's so good to know she's no longer in pain, I still can't believe she's gone. It's makes me tear up every time I think about it.

Hugs!

Paige said...

Oh man, J, I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather. Big hug to you. Please let me know whether there's anything I can bring you and the fam to help out.

XO,
P

Gingers Mom said...

My prayers are with you and your family. I am terribly sorry for such a great loss.

ewe are here said...

So sorry for your loss.

Sending good thoughts your way.

Melissa R. Garrett said...

I'm so sorry for the loss you all are feeling. My thoughts are with you . . .

Anonymous said...

I will say a prayer for Ady tonight. He is loved.

Williams Brother

Plain Jane Mom said...

Oh Jessica, I am so sorry.

wordgirl said...

I am so sorry. I'm sending thoughts and hugs to you.

Panda said...

I wish you peace, and I hope that you find comfort in being with your family.

Queen of the Mayhem said...

I am so sorry for your loss! I pray that God grants you the strength to accept His will!

Take care of yourself!

Lisa said...

I am so very sorry for your loss....

My heart is with you. And you'll be in my thoughts alot.

flutter said...

Oh honey. All I can think to do is hug you.

hk said...

I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Pgoodness said...

I am awfully sorry to hear. Hope you all can find peace knowing he is in a painless place now.

Amanda said...

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Em said...

Thoughts and energy are with you tonight.

notfearingchange said...

I'm so sorry....my thoughts are with you and your family.

Anonymous said...

Jess, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry to read of your loss. May your warm and loving memories of your grandfather comfort you. hugs
Annie

Stephanie T. said...

My deepest sympathy for your loss. I am extremely close to my grandfather who is 90, so I try to prepare myself for what you are now going through all the time. (((Hugs)))

QT said...

My thoughts are with you. I was so close to my grandma, I am glad for the memories, but I do miss her.

Wishing you safe travels.

urban-urchin said...

I'm so sorry. Thinking and praying for you and your family.

Lotta said...

Oh my goodness. Prayers for you and your grandpa.

yerdoingitwrong said...

I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I'm a fellow future MILF-er just checking in. I'll be back to see how you are. Please take care of yourself!!

wayabetty said...

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that Jessica. My deepest condolences to you and your family of this great loss.

Bob said...

my sincerest condolences on your loss. You will be in my thoughts, I wish for you strength and peace of mind.

bykimlane said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I know how difficult it is to lose a loved one. Cherish those memories and celebrate his life.

Amber said...

How sad but what a long, wonderful life he must have led. My thoughts are with you!

The Medium Swede said...

God Bless you and God Bless Ady.

Liz said...

Thank you for sharing; I am so very sorry for your loss.

Two Knives said...

Still thinking of you.

bobbarama said...

My thoughts are with you and your family. I lost my dad nearly a year ago, so I know. Good thoughts, lots of hugs.

Mel said...

((((((((((((You)))))))))))))

I love that quote.

((((((((((((You)))))))))))))

Mama G said...

So sorry to hear about your loss. Beautiful, beautiful post.

Button Gwinnett said...

So sorry to hear of your loss. I wish you and your family as you relive and hopefully celebrate his life.

Pendullum said...

Oh Jessica,
I am so very sorry for your family's loss...

Sending you lots of love...

Mother From Another Continent said...

I hope his passing was as beautiful as your thoughts you shared about him.

Jhianna said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Kristin said...

Keeping all of you in my prayers... take care and find grace...

Stepping Over the Junk said...

Sorry about your Ady. Bless you and your family.

King Isepik said...

You have my sympathies.

Nancy said...

I am so sorry to hear that your grandfather passed away. I am thinking of you and your family and hoping that you find some comfort from your many wonderful memories.

Kevin Charnas said...

I'm sending you and your family everything wonderful I have...

With Love and Sincerity,
Your friend,
Your Other K.

Nikki said...

I'm terribly sorry.

I wish him peace and your family comfort.

BethGo said...

So sorry.
((Hugs))

Working Gal said...

So sorry for your loss.

I went through this in December with my Grandma - it's hard to take, and hard to watch my Grandad who is now an 86 year old widower.

I'm thinking of you and your family at this time.

StealthBadger said...

-_-

nutty mummy said...

x

wendy boucher said...

Sorry Ms. Joy. Really sorry for your loss.

lildb said...

Jess. I'm so sorry.

Kristen said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I know no words can ease the pain. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

shoopska said...

I'm so sorry Jess. You and your family - and your Ady - are in my thoughts and prayers.

mamatulip said...

I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts. Thinking of you.

Jenny said...

I'm so, so sorry.

I'm thinking of you and your family.

I wish I was there to hug you.

kim said...

Im so sorry Jessica ... I'll be thinking of you and your family *hugs*

Domestic Chicky said...

Mere words can't even begin to express my sympathies for you with your beloved grandfather's passing. Especially after reading your letter to him, I know he brought you great joy and a lifetime of memories to cherish. Celebrate the love he had for you and know that I am thinking about you and your family...

Deanna

Mad Hatter said...

Ah geez, I am late getting here. I am so sorry, Jessica. So very sorry.